Well, the boyfriend's birthday party was a smashing success. Other than the itsy bitsy cake disaster and having to cut my mother off from the mango margaritas, the whole affair went off without a hitch. In hindsight the fourth bottle of tequila was probably unwise, but no one seemed the worse for wear the next day, other than the boyfriend himself. Luckily, everyone had a camera, so we'll be able to show him what he missed.
I owe a heartfelt thanks to everyone who helped pull it all together. The amount of love on display touched us both more than you can know.